From Self-Doubt to Self-Belief: How This Neurodivergent Leader Reclaimed Confidence and Stepped Into Senior-Level Thinking
The Challenge: Burnout, Second-Guessing, and Feeling “Not Enough”
This client came to coaching feeling drained and unsure of themselves. They were exhausted by a role that no longer challenged them, yet every time they thought about aiming higher, something stopped them.
They dismissed compliments. They downplayed achievements. They overextended themselves with people-pleasing and perfectionism. And rejection, even small setbacks, felt deeply personal.
They knew they were capable of more but could not see themselves the way others saw them. Impostor syndrome had become the default lens.
The Shift Begins: Evidence, Self-Compassion, and Trying on a New Identity
We began by grounding everything in evidence. Each day they wrote down one moment of praise, impact, or progress. Each week they reviewed the list. The more evidence they collected, the harder it became to deny their capability.
Next, we explored self-compassion. They discovered that their drive did not come from pressure or fear of messing up. It came from purpose, meaning, and wanting to do good work. When they shifted from fear-based productivity to values-led motivation, their work felt lighter and more energising.
We also experimented with an alter ego approach. This gave them a way to temporarily step into a more confident version of themselves while their deeper self-belief caught up. They started showing up to conversations and opportunities as if they already belonged in the senior spaces they were aiming for.
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Some of my clients choose creative pop culture characters to use as their alter ego, though I’m yet to see someone actually put on a cape.
Bouncing Back From Knockbacks
Previously, every job rejection or piece of tough feedback felt like a personal attack. We reframed these moments as systemic, situational, and not a statement about their talent.
They learned to protect their emotional energy, set clearer boundaries, and see rejection as information rather than identity.
Small, consistent actions helped them build resilience, including:
Starting conversations they would have avoided
Trying new responsibilities
Saying no when something was not aligned
Putting themselves forward even when it felt uncomfortable
The Transformation: Confidence, Clarity, and Senior Leadership Presence
Across our work together, this client shifted profoundly.
They went from minimising their success to recognising their genuine skill.
From overthinking every interaction to trusting their instincts.
From feeling unprepared to acting like the leader they already were.
They stopped waiting for external validation and started backing themselves, and that changed everything.
Key Takeaways for Neurodivergent Leaders
Track your wins to build an evidence base of your competence
Replace fear-driven motivation with a sustainable, values-led approach
Try an alter ego identity when your confidence is shaky
Reframe rejection as neutral data rather than proof you are failing
Take consistent small actions to build long-term leadership confidence
If You Are a Neurodivergent Leader Struggling With Self-Doubt
You do not need to wait until you feel ready to step into bigger opportunities. Confidence grows through evidence, compassion, and action, and you can begin building that foundation now. If you’re looking for someone to take you there, book a call today. Discover your leadership strengths, build your influence, and take your next role with confidence.