From Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria to Resilient Leadership
The Challenge: Personalizing Rejection
My client, a senior leader with years of management experience, faced a challenge many high-achievers encounter: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Every knockback, from a job application to an unmet expectation, felt personal, feeding into self-doubt and overthinking.
Despite a strong track record and proven capabilities, she spiralled into self-blame when things did not go as planned. The pattern of internalizing rejection was impacting her confidence and decision-making, leaving her hesitant to take risks or explore new opportunities.
Shifting the Narrative
We began by reframing rejection. Instead of viewing each setback as proof of inadequacy, she learned to see them as part of a natural process. Rejection was not a reflection of her skills, but a normal occurrence in competitive environments.
We also worked on setting boundaries around her energy. By balancing accountability with self-compassion, she stopped trying to control every outcome and instead focused on where she could make the most impact.
Building Resilience and Expanding Influence
Over the course of coaching, she practiced applying this new perspective. She pursued more leadership roles, expanded her professional network, and explored volunteering opportunities to showcase her expertise in a low-stakes environment. Each step reinforced her confidence and resilience.
The transformation became visible not only in her career trajectory but also in how she approached challenges: with composure, intentionality, and a proactive mindset.
Key Takeaways:
Reframe rejection: Understand that setbacks are part of the process, not a measure of personal worth.
Set energy boundaries: Balance effort and self-compassion to prevent burnout.
Take strategic risks: Pursue new opportunities despite fear of rejection.
Leverage low-stakes environments: Use volunteering or side projects to build confidence and skills.
Build resilience consciously: Confidence grows through repeated, reflective action.
This client’s journey shows that even seasoned leaders can struggle with internalized rejection, but with intentional strategies and a focus on resilience, it is possible to transform fear into action.
By reframing rejection, setting boundaries, and testing new opportunities, she became not just a more confident professional, but a leader capable of thriving through challenges.
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